My parents aren’t overly affectionate, and I don’t think they’d kill me for saying so (but if you don’t hear from me next month, you’ll know I was wrong). They’re independent people and, while they love each other very much, they just don’t show it outwardly that often by way of a smooch or pinch on the butt.
I, on the other hand, am a very outwardly loving person — and, wouldn’t you know? — my husband is the same way. We spend many of our evenings cuddled under a blanket on the couch, we always hold hands when we’re out and about and Friday evenings, whenever possible, are meant for dancing in each other’s arms.
That might sound overly romantic and cheesy, and I’m constantly reminded by my coworkers that I’ve only been married a year and a half — barely past the honeymoon stage. They fully expect things to change in a few years. I don’t. I see us following the path of my in-laws — who still hold hands when they walk down the street.
To my father’s credit, however, he always brings my mother a card and flower on Valentine’s Day, and he always calls before he leaves the office to let her know he’s on his way home. After 33 years of marriage — which has equated to 33 years of my mother running errands for my father — I figure they know they are loved. And even if I don’t see them hug each other very often, my brother and I get plenty of hugs from both of them whenever we visit.
My point is that love is shown, cultivated and celebrated in many different ways. And this month, we celebrate the relationships we have and share with you some of the lessons Lake County residents have learned in their own lives.
Joy and David Thornborough of Round Lake met online when dating sites were just getting started. It worked for them, and today, they’ve been married 10 years and are happier than ever. While I was surprised to learn that one in six marriages now have roots from a website, according to Match.com, I’m sure it’s no surprise to the Thornboroughs.
Don and Phyllis Eggert of Libertyville didn’t meet online, but that’s because the Internet hadn’t been invented when they were young. The proud patriarch and matriarch of four children and eight grandchildren have been married 60 years, and they know a thing or two about getting along.
For those who are just beginning to plan a life of love with their significant other, our special wedding section offers ideas of ways to create lasting memories with local merchants and professionals. Many of our featured wedding experts offer custom products that won’t be duplicated anywhere else, and they’re located right here in Lake County.
Plus, we learn a bit about fertility clinics and how they can help couples like Katie and Gregg O’Brien of Wadsworth, who were able to start their own little family.
And make sure to check out the recipe for chocolate raspberry soufflé, compliments of Chef Michael Maddox of Hawthorn Woods, who created the dish specifically for two people to share together.
I hope you appreciate all of the relationships you have in your life, and I wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day!
— Stephanie N. Grimoldby